September 2008

Working Moms...How do we Balance it All?

Author: Mary Frances | Photographer: Mine Studios

I have been blessed to be able to stay at home with my children for the last 8 years. However, it was not always financially easy on our family. I liked being able to take walks with my kids to the park in the middle of the day or be there to volunteer in their classrooms or just be able to see them change right before my eyes all day long.

Then were days when I missed adult conversations about things other than children, or parenting. Since we have moved back to South Carolina and both kids are now enrolled in school until 3PM I decided it was time for me to go back part time. I have never been someone who looked down on moms who worked (I have many sisters who do) and I never looked down on women who stayed at home ( I was one of them).

But I admired things about each group. I admired women who could balance work and family and I admired women who could be so selfless in their devotion to family. Yes, I said selfless. Not that women who work are selfish…that is not what I said. It is selfless to give up a huge chuck of your identity to stay at home with children.

It can be lonely.

Well, now I am seeing the other side and I am struggling to balance work and family. I asked my sister how she managed to run a successful business of her own and be a dedicated wife and mother.

She said, “There are good days and bad days. There are days when my 5 year old begs me to play with her and I can’t. There are days when I finally put my head on the pillow at night and tears roll down my cheeks. Then there are days when every schedule runs like clock work. I feel fulfilled and mentally challenged and I feel like I was able to give to every one what they needed.”

Well, I have not figured that part out yet. I am moving into a new house, learning a new area, relearning 2nd grade (he has assignments that confuse me sometimes), figuring out a new business, and being a maid, cook, laundress, tutor, lover, mother, salesperson, contractor (yes, we are remodeling the house), and driver to all the kids activities. I am learning. I told my son the other day that in school and life I do not expect perfection. No one is perfect. But I do expect effort. I guess I need to give myself the same advice. So, working moms if you have any tips on how to balance your life I would love to hear them!

Mary Frances

  1. Breathe…. I find doing things like picking out uniforms and packing lunches the night before really help the next morning when your’re trying to get the kids to school and yourself to work on time!

    — Isabella, Madison & Marcus's Mom :)    Oct 2, 11:47 am   

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